HOW TO BE YOURSELF
If you are the kind of person who always wants to be yourself, to dress the way you want to dress, wear your hair the way you want to wear it, and walk out the door in hopes that your inner self will align with your external world. But, as much as you want to admit that you do things for yourself, you can’t help but wonder what others will think if you wear a certain piece of clothing or part your hair a certain way. You don’t know why, but you can’t help but create these inner critics that you can only see and feel. You don’t want to believe that these thoughts are my truths, but they sometimes take charge. While you don’t compare myself to others usually, but you can’t help but feel that you have to act, talk, or look a certain way to be allowed to be a part of someone else’s world instead of just trusting yourself that you are enough to be loved for who you are. So here are some ways to be who you really are:
1. Minimize your use of social media
It can be hard to find your own voice when you’re constantly consuming others’ thoughts and opinions. While social media channels like Instagram and Facebook are there to connect you with other like-minded people, they can easily put a damper on your day when you see something that could trigger a negative thought pattern. To prevent this from happening, it’s best to take a break by unplugging every once in a while. Delete these apps, and put your attention into other things that will validate your voice and won’t require validation from “likes” and “comments”. Swapping your daily swipes with voice-affirming activities that were mentioned above could help you build your intuition and allow you to get to know yourself on a higher level. Come to think of it, you can do without them.
Accept yourself for who you are
When you accept yourself as you are and you act according to your particular way of being, without complexes, stereotypes or imitations of any kind then you know you are getting better. You are aware that you are different, and you enjoy it. You focus on using your strengths and overcoming weaknesses but also go without configuring your individual essence.
Say things that come from your mind
Nothing is more damaging to your self-worth than saying things you don’t mean. This goes hand-in-hand with trying to please others because you’re afraid to rub someone the wrong way. Being true to your values and ethos is the greatest gift you can give yourself. This allows you to be open and honest with yourself in ways you couldn’t imagine. When something comes up that either bothers you or goes against what you believe, allow yourself to live in the discomfort and politely speak your truth. Usually, people say things they don’t mean because they don’t know how to sit with things that make them uncomfortable, so they’d rather avoid it all together by just doing what the other person wants.
Robert Browning said “Best be yourself, imperial, plain, and true.”