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If you’re a woman thinking about how to get your ex back, you’ve likely taken the “desperate times call for desperate measures” approach, causing you to do all kinds of unfortunate things including “the walk of shame” and the dreaded “drunk dial.”
These unflattering behaviors are hardly what to do after a breakup. Your antics make you look like a doormat, and will ultimately push him away.
Everyone wished their relationship will last. But you can’t help it when things don’t go on as you want. You can’t avoid break up. After going through the stormy days after break up, you realize that you miss him. You think it’s normal because you haven’t yet to get used without him in your life.

1. Agree with how things ended.
The truth is, you broke up for valid reasons. If he mentions those reasons, don’t dispute them.
Have the courage to hear the truth in what he’s saying, acknowledge it and apologize for it. It’s better to be happy and loved than to be right about everything.
Wanting to be right, versus hearing the truth of how he felt while in a relationship with you, is your ego stepping in and overshadowing your soul’s desire to be happy and loved.

2. Don’t try to get him back
The first way to get him back is never try to get him back. When you are overwhelmed with missing him, you seem unable to control yourself. You call him, you asked to meet him, and you do anything to chase him. It will make you lose your power and dignity, girls. He will think you psycho instead. Don’t chase him. Just don’t keep in touch with him.

3. Take responsibility for your role in the breakup.
Hard to admit, but true: in every breakup you’ve experienced, you were the common denominator. Instead of blaming him exclusively for what happened, look within and determine how you contributed to the demise of your relationship.
For instance, do you tend to question your exes about their whereabouts because you have a hard time trusting them? If so, those are your trust issues to address and fix, not his to magically resolve.
Do the inner work to learn how to trust your own judgment so you can be more trusting. That way, if he does come back, this issue won’t resurface again and contribute to another breakup.

4. Build a new lifestyle and show him
Everyone will have a hard time during the break up, but you have no choice beside move on. Face ahead the days without him, and think of what you can do to improve yourself. Make a new lifestyle because your daily life will indeed different than it was. Now you have free weekends and spare time at night when you used to call him goodnight.
Create a new activity to spend those times. Meet your old friend on the weekends; enjoy a solo trip, go bed early, read books, and everything you’d loved to do. Posts them onto the social media and let him know how you enjoy yourself now.

So those are ways to get him back after a breakup. Breaking up however is a phase of a relationship. If you are meant for each other you will find a way back no matter what. But if you have try your best but still can’t get back together with him, don’t worry because surely you will find someone better.

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