HOW TO BE THE BEST
Get an inspiration from around you.
A conversation with someone close to you can be very helpful.
Another thing you can do is to learn from those who’ve gone where you want to go.
Read about how they handled setbacks and low-points before or during their success in books, on websites or online forums.
Or you can simply tap into the enthusiasm or motivation of someone else by listening to a podcast or audio book for maybe 30-60 minutes.
This may not be specifically about your current challenge but can help you to shift your mood and mindset back towards optimism again.
Keep moving forward, do not remain in grief.
Processing the situation and accepting it is essential.
But I know from experience that it’s also easy to get stuck in the same thoughts going around and around for week or a month.
The habit that has helped me with this trap is to take what I learn from questions like the ones I shared in tip #3 and to make a small rough plan for how I want to move forward from here.
So I take some time to sit down and write that one out.
Do not procrastinate, act now.
The plan you come up with will just be a start. You can course-correct later on, along the way.
So you don’t have to make it perfect.
Trying to do that can sometimes just be a way to procrastinate because you fear failing again or because it is hard to start moving after this rough and disorienting thing that happened to you.
Split your start of a plan up into small steps and then take action on just one of them.
If you still have a hard time to get going then go for a very small step, just 1-5 minutes of action forward. The important thing is to get started and moving forward again so make that easy on yourself.
Increase your confidence.
A last thing that has helped me in general to handle setbacks is to improve my self-esteem.
By doing so failures don’t become something that so easily drags me down and I recover more quickly from them.
It also makes it easier to see what happened with more clarity and to take responsibility when I am responsible but also to see when someone else is partly responsible or when I just had bad luck that I could honestly not have predicted.
And that helps me to not think that everything that goes wrong in my life is 100% my fault.
But how do you improve your self-esteem?
A good start would be to use much of what you find in this article.
Like remembering that YOU are not a failure, that everyone have setbacks, to be constructive in the face of adversity and so on.
By doing these things over and over and making them habits your self-esteem improves.
And over time a smaller setback may just bounce off of you and a larger one will not be the same blow as it used to and the shock and climb back up from what happened becomes easier and not something that is as paralyzing anymore.